Video: Image is Powerful, But Image is Superficial
After watching this video, I found myself reflecting over my own high school experiences. As a young woman today, we are constantly faced with the pressure to be prettier, slimmer, and to make sure our “femininity” is the height of our existence. Well, let’s be honest. Most of us do not fit the “industry standard” for the models of modern fashion so we should consider, why are we defining our beauty standards by the pressures of society?
This is Webster’s definition of beauty:
1.a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.
Interesting how we allow one word to carry such weight, when in reality, if you look at the definition the true meaning of the word is based on the senses and opinions of the observer.
I remember going to my first prom as a junior, I was so nervous. I had borrowed the dress of a close friend of mine that was in college & ended up going alone in a large group of other girls. I had lots of fun, then found out I was on the ballot to be the prom queen. Now, I’ve had my fair share of popularity, but my focus was academia in high school since I knew I wanted to go into a specific career. However, that night and most of the time in my high school years, much like Cameron states in the TED talk, I was focused on looking and feeling beautiful.
I’ll never forget standing there with 4 other girls and hearing my name as 3rd runner up. I was happy and my friends cheered, but I wondered if I would ever be as beautiful as the young woman that took home the crown. It wasn’t until years later after placing first at the regional level in beauty pageants that I realized that “societal beauty” is not my truth. My truth is defined by how my body feels.
Ladies, what does it matter if someone tells you that you are gorgeous if you don’t believe it? We squeeze ourselves into uncomfortable shoes and dresses that are one size too small so that we can validate our insecurities. Well, I think we should take a stand and start to reflect on what we believe is beautiful.
I am a believer that every one of you reading this article was uniquely and wonderfully made. And you know, take some time today to ask yourself these questions:
1. How am I adding value to my life when I constantly analyze photos of my body and my face?
2. When was the last time I took care of myself and did something to make myself feel beautiful?
3. Why am I letting someone else’s opinion of me guide my actions?
As young girls and women, we have to make today the day when we stand up for what we know is our truth. We have to decide to stand for promoting health instead of just aesthetic beauty. Let’s face it, when you feel great, you look great, and confidence is the most beautiful thing you can wear every single day.