5 Reasons to Do Boudoir Pictures in Dallas Even If You’re Single

Single? Thinking you have no one to give boudoir pictures to, so why bother doing a Dallas boudoir shoot? I hear ya. I’m right there with you. I’ve thought the exact same thing for the last several years that I’ve been in this business.

We all have various insecurities. Just last week, more than one woman told me she’s always wanted to do a boudoir shoot but she’s waiting until she loses weight. Then another told me she’s always wanted to, but her boobs are too small. These all may seem like valid reasons, but ya’ll – I know camera & posing tricks. For example, lying on the back flattens stomachs, folding arms under chests creates cleavage.

For the single woman though, the “Who’s even going to see these photos? It’s not like I’m going to share them on Facebook…what’s the point of investing in this for myself?” reason isn’t so easy to overcome. Well chica, I’m here to tell you that I understand because I’m single and I haven’t done a boudoir shoot yet. My desire to do one though has only grown stronger. The more I do them for other women, the more I wish I had a man to do one for. However, boudoir photography isn’t about seducing someone, it’s about celebrating your femininity. Falling in love with how you look in the mirror. Realizing that you’re beautiful even if you don’t have a special someone and no one is asking you out. Every woman needs this, but I’m starting to think that if you’re single, you need it even more than someone who’s in a relationship. More than likely, if you’ve been single awhile like me, you’re starting to wonder if it’s because of something external. So why not invest in something that’s going to help you love your external?

I decided that I’m going to do a boudoir shoot around April or earlier for these reasons:

1) I’ve been single for over a decade. While I’ve had tons of dates, I haven’t had a boyfriend. No one has wanted to commit to a relationship & I’ve started to wonder if it’s my body, or my clothes, or the way I do my hair/makeup. All of these thoughts have definitely put a damper on my self-esteem. I need to get my groove back & I know that boudoir photography can be life-changing in this area.

2) In today’s social climate, I’m starting to no longer feel beautiful because I’m black. Since I was a kid, every single one of my crushes hasn’t been interested in me back, but instead, has made it pretty clear he’s into blondes. I’ve also done casual surveys among all my male friends & discovered that while a few are also into brunettes, redheads, Latinas, or Asians, almost NO ONE has a thing for black women. Doing a boudoir shoot would help me feel desirable again.

3) I’m a major romantic. Despite all of the above, I still have hope that I’ll marry one day. I have not only been praying for my future husband, I’ve also been writing letters to him. I’ve been starting to think as I watch my clients present beautiful albums to their special someones the morning of their weddings, how freakin’ romantic would it be to present MY future hubby with an album full of not just one shoot, but several shoots? It would be especially romantic to present it to him the morning of the wedding with a note that says, “This is the culmination of years of waiting for you to come along. You were worth the wait. Pick out the piece you want me to wear tonight, I’ll see ya later. ;)” Really, aside from money (which can be saved up over time), I can’t think of any reason why NOT to invest in an annual empowerment shoot for myself. Even if he never comes along, I’ll be reminded that I am freakin’ sexy every single year & that all these other dudes just don’t even know what they’re missing out on. 😉

4) It would be nice to wake up to a daily reminder that I’m beautiful. I have a walk-in closet with tons of open wall space & I’ve been thinking about how empowering it would be to walk in there, see a giant black & white boudoir photo of me with the verse “I am dark yet lovely” (Song of Solomon 1:5) underneath it, & be reminded every morning of this truth. Some would say this idea is narcissistic. But I say differently. After being boyfriendless for the last 10 years, I NEED to be reminded on the daily that I’m amazing and only single because I haven’t met someone as equally amazing yet.

5) Confidence is attractive. I’ve considered myself a fairly confident person for the last 5 or so years. But lately, I’ve felt myself slipping back into little insecure girl mode to the point I can’t even look at anyone I’m interested in. That certainly won’t help me get asked out. I know it’s unattractive to be insecure as recently I met a man who was super sweet & good-looking, but he was mega insecure and that was a turn-off. If I want a confident man, I need to be a confident woman again myself.

So, there you have it; my 5 reasons to do a boudoir shoot even if you’re single. I began planning my first boudoir shoot & you can see my mood board for my first boudoir session here.

Don’t hesitate to reach out if you’ve decided that you too, are worth investing in even though you’re “just” a single woman. 🙂

UPDATE: I’ve had my first boudoir session!! The photo in this blog post is a cropped pic from it. To see the full version of this photo & the rest of the photos from this session as well as other sessions I’ve done since this post was written (because GIRL, I discovered that this thing is ADDICTING), go check out my women’s-only VIP Facebook group!! <3